The True Legacy We Leave for Our Kids | Wiring kids to succeed | Brilliant Parenting
- Sia
- Oct 23
- 8 min read
Times are changing, priorities are changing, parents today can no longer afford to live & raise their kids like their parents did. Every parent wants their child to succeed and make the best life for themselves. Allow this blog post to blow your mind and take you on the path of brilliant parenting ;-) aka conscious parenting!
TYPES OF PARENTING
A good 50% parents of today's day and age believe that the true legacy they can leave for their kids is the MONEY (assets) they can leave behind for the kids thus securing their future. A solid 20% of parents believe the true legacy is the best education they can give their kids so that their future is "sorted". The remaining 30% are truly lost. Trust me, I speak to parents daily, I hear them! This blog post is for every parent out there including me and my husband.
💰 Group 1: The “Money = Legacy” Parents (~50%)
These parents equate love with provision.
These parents were often raised in scarcity or uncertainty, so financial security feels like the highest expression of care.
Their parenting psychology: “If I can make sure my kids never struggle the way I did, I’ve done my job.”
Emotionally, they tend to value stability over individuality.
Downside: kids may inherit comfort but lack emotional resilience or a sense of purpose — they grow up well-fed but under-nourished emotionally.
Core driver: Fear of lack → overcompensation through money.
Legacy lens: “I’ll protect my children from pain by cushioning them with wealth.”
🎓 Group 2: The “Education = Legacy” Parents (~20%)
These parents are oriented toward achievement and self-sufficiency.
They believe the real inheritance is capability.
Their logic: “If I give you the best education, you’ll create your own wealth.”
Emotionally, they prize intellect and competence — but sometimes overlook emotional intelligence, play, or creativity.
Core driver: Pride in success → belief that knowledge = empowerment.
Legacy lens: “I’ll prepare you to earn your own life.”
🌫️ Group 3: The “Lost” Parents (~30%)
These are parents who want to do right but are emotionally confused.
They’re overwhelmed by social comparison, guilt, or mixed messages from culture.
They swing between spoiling, controlling, or detaching — because they lack clarity on what really matters.
Emotionally, they might be reacting to their own parents (“I’ll do the opposite of what mine did”) rather than intentionally creating their own parenting philosophy.
Core driver: Emotional confusion or unresolved trauma.
Legacy lens: “I’m not sure what the right legacy is, but I’m trying my best.”
💫 The Missing 4th Category (Rare but Evolving): “Values = Legacy”
Only a small percentage of conscious parents today fall here.They see legacy as values, emotional health, and consciousness.
They focus on emotional safety, kindness, curiosity, and self-awareness.
They teach children how to think, not what to think.
Their goal isn’t a “sorted” future — it’s a fulfilled one.
Core driver: Conscious awareness.
Legacy lens: “I’ll teach you how to love yourself and handle life.”
What is common among all successful people today?
If you think about successful people today and you study their history (their childhood, school and college year experiences), you will understand that there's a common thread weaving through each of that story; and that thread is that of
DISCOMFORT.
Nothing good can ever come out of giving a cushy life to your kids. Some parents channel & project a lot of their childhood experiences on their children and that's a recipe for getting truly lost in the overwhelming world of parenting. Parents feel that because they had uncomfortable experiences/unfulfilled wishes & dreams, they wouldn't want that for their child. But, what we forget is that we are who we are because of our experiences.
My story
I was bullied, mocked and sidelined quite a bit in my early childhood years (things drastically changed later though) but those days have shaped me into:
>a no nonsense person
>resilient & gritty
>strong & bold
>kind & compassionate
>absofuckinglutely intolerant to bullying
I am the first one to stand up and speak up if someone is being treated in an unfair manner. I can blame my childhood or feel proud of the way it shaped me. I prefer the latter and coerce every parent to learn how to change the way they perecive their childhood (after proper healing of course). Nothing good can/will ever come out of blaming parents.
How is this linked to DISCOMFORT?
As parents today, we want to do the best for the child and we try to keep them safe by mollycoddling them and cushioning them. This will cripple them in their later years when they will have to stand up if and when required.
So, then, what do we do?
Create artificial problems?
NOPE!
We let them live, make mistakes, push them to find solutions to their problems and put them out there to have experiences. The idea is not get disheartened when your child is having a meltdown or a heartbreak.
Dude, life is life, anything but a bed of roses.
We all have had meltdowns and we have come out of those experiences with a lot of perspective and resilence.
The True Legacy we leave for our kids
The true legacy we leave for our kids is the BLUEPRINT we lay out in front of them in the form of-
>Marriage
>Love towards spouse
>Love towards child
>How we manage our emotions
>How we REACT to other people's success
>How we REACT to other people's 'lack of success' 'failure'
>The way we speak about people around us behind close doors
>The way we feel about money
>The way we work (hard work/short-cuts)
Children learn how to navigate life by looking at their parents.
LOOKING & OBSERVING.
Kids are very keen observers.
If you say one thing and do another, they will be the first ones to catch your bluff.
The way you love your partner, kids pick up on that too and show up in their relationships exactly like that in their later years.
For example, if I am always complaining to my husband and cribbing about the things he doesn't do for me and hold grudges against him, my daughter will observe this (and most likely resent me for this) but also either-
>become a partner who cribs and complains a lot or
>attracts a partner who cribs and complains a lot
This is because we live our life in patterns unless we break the patterns through healing, forgiveness and non-judgement. I have worked with very many clients who become exactly like their parents even though they hated those exact qualities in them.
YOU BECOME WHAT YOU JUDGE.
Marriage is a very powerful blueprint for kids.
Another example, if a husband is verbally abusive to his wife and they have a son who hates his father for it, the son at some point will either attract an abusive (physically/mentally/verbally/emotionally) partner or find himself becoming like his own father.
So the true legacy we leave for our kids is the way we show up in our marriage.
No marriage is a bed of roses but the way a couple interacts and deals with problems is imprinted deep into a child's psyche.
Example, if a girl has grown up watching her parents shout and fight and get bitter with each other over big things/small things (doesn't matter), she will start resenting conflicts and become a non-confrontatitoonal person. But, the funny part is that even though she will hate conflicts, once she's in a serious long term partnership, she will find herself reliving her parent's marriage. Unless, she heals and breaks that pattern.
When we are little, we are very impressionable, we imprint on everything so it goes deep into this girls' subconscious that the only solution is to fight and raise voice else I won't be heard; because that's what she grew up watching!
When a child sees his parents manage emotions better (if there's an outburst, the parent is taking accountability, apologizing and genuinely taking efforts to improve and actually improving, the child starts believing in the power of change, hope and improvement.
Children also see how parents respond to success.
They first see what is success to my parent?
Money?
Fame?
Popularity?
That becomes their model also.
If for example I tell my daughter that true success is hard work and kindness and she watches me praise and look up to famous people who have copious amounts of money and fame, she will also believe that sucess= money & fame. Kids observe parents very closely. You have done it as a kid, I have done it as a kid.
Children also watch the way we treat those who aren't successful as per our definition and they become exactly like us. That's why kids who bully other kids in school are being bullied or feeling bullied at home. They watch, learn and emulate behaviors.
If a parent carries a lack or limited mentality around money whether they are well off or not, kids pick up on that. Watch the way you speak about money. Telling a child we can't afford is not wrong, the way you say that matters. Kids also pick up if parents are fearful around money. They grow up to feel that too.
If a child sees both his parents work hard but crib about the effort they put in, the child starts feeling negatively around hard work. They can any moment form a belief that
Hard work never pays off or
Hard work doesn't always pay off
This is when thet start resorting to shortcuts and that can infuriate a parent who is hardworking. But please think...
Were you happy when you were working hard in front of your kid?
How can you crib while working hard and expect your child to get inspired by it?
MY PLEA TO EVERYONE
Think before having children.
Start your journey of self improvement long before you become a parent and while you are parenting, read books, study successful people, improve your belief system because
Your healthy & evolving belief system is the best asset you can leave for your child. Through your belief system, you can set them up for success.
Let me share some of my parent's belief system that have helped me a lot (and the ones that were limiting me, I healed on those).
LEGACY my parents left for me
I am sharing things my parents told me growing up that have become a part of my psyche. I maybe never believed it all at first but they kept saying these things over and over. These are in Hindi and I am quoting them directly.
{ NOTE: Anku is my pet name :-) }
Writing them in this way is tearing me up & also swelling me up with pride.
Anku, tere mein bahut potential hai usko kabhi waste mat hone dena.
Anku, you are meant for BIG things.
Tu ek din bahut aage jaayegi dekhna!
Anku tu bahut lucky hai.
Jo hota hai ache ke liye hota hai.
Guru baba ko pray kar, sab theek ho jaayega.
Padhai hi kaam aati hai.
Mehnat kabhi waste nahi jaati.
Mehnati insaan humesha aage badh jaata hai.
Hard work ka saath kabhi mat chodna.
Logon ko sirf pyaar chahiye hota hai. Love everyone.
Sabki respect kia kar especially apne se choton ki.
Logon ko parakhna seekh.
Har dost dost nahi hota, logon ke intentions ko samajh.
Badon ke aashirwaad se log kahan se kahaaan pahuch jaate hain.
etc.
Hope you find this article helpful. Please share it with all your loved ones. Let's grow and evolve together. Drop in your thoughts in the comments below.
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Love & Gratitude,
Sia
Internationally Certified Life Coach, Certified Astrologer, Internationally Certified Hormone Health Coach, Spiritual Coach, Internationally Certified Energy Healer & Teacher, Tarot Card Reader & Teacher, Switch Word & Energy Circles Practitioner, Certified Drawing & Handwriting Analyst, Feeding Thy Soul Blog
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FOOD FOR THOUGHT
If parents don't heal and work on their belief system, they end up reacting and acting out of their triggers and this is what happens to the child:
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